My daughter is the most special person in my life. Before I got pregnant, I thought about all the things I would have to give up as a parent such as personal time, privacy, luxuries like grand vacations, and at least eighteen years of freedom. While I was pregnant, I gave up high heels and my wardrobe. I also gave up my body. I subsisted on plain bagels and water for a few months. Later, I ate like a teenage boy. Unfortunately, I didn’t have a teenage boy’s metabolism and hit the 200 pounds mark (In case you’re wondering, I did lose the extra weight). And, of course, my bodily functions became a challenge.
That I would get something out of motherhood never occurred to me. As I washed the dishes one day, I looked at my daughter and realized that I was her most important example of a woman. I accepted my duty and made some decisions:
- While some people stay married because of the kids, I chose to get divorced because of my kid. By staying in an unhappy union, I would show my daughter that it was okay to settle in life. Since that’s not the way that I want her to live her life, I had to change the way I lived mine.
- Since my childhood, I dreamed of being a writer. I let other people convince me that I couldn’t do it. I lacked self-confidence. And I let my own desire for financial stability push my dream aside. There is no way I want my daughter to give up on her dreams before she even tries to live them out. So, I wrote a book and published it.
Because of my daughter, I learned the meaning of happiness. Now, I live my life in alignment with my inner truth. If that’s not amazing enough, there’s one more thing she gives me. The simplicity of her three year old mind forces me to slow down, and to enjoy the moment and let myself get absorbed in it.
Today I’m participating in a mass blogging day! WOW! Women On Writing has gathered a group of blogging buddies to write about Special People We Know and Love. Why? We’re celebrating the release of Joanne Lewis’ and Amy Lewis Faircloth’s debut novel. Wicked Good (Telemachus Press, LLC, 2011) is about the unconditional love between a mother and her adopted, special needs son and the adventure that brings them closer together. Visit The Muffin to read what Joanne and Amy have to share about their special people and view the list of all my blogging buddies. Then be sure to visit http://www.amyandjoanne.com/ to learn more about the authors.
If you comment on today’s post on this blog or any of the other blogs participating in Everybody’s Talking About Wicked Good People, you will be entered to win a print copy of Wicked Good by Amy Lewis Faircloth and Joanne Lewis. To read about Amy and Joanne’s Special People and view the list of participating blogs please visit The Muffin http://muffin.wow-womenonwriting.com/